Several years ago, I was in a dark place personally. I had over-extended myself into places that I was not called, doing things that I was not passionate about, and burning the candle at every possible end. Ever been there?? My sweet friend, Melody, (Remember her?? She gave us the recipes for Rotel Cream Cheese Enchiladas and Nana’s Peachy Delight. Shall we all have a moment of silence for these two recipes?!?) convinced me to go to a retreat for women, specifically women who have husbands in the ministry. Before I move on, you need to know three things about me:
- I love Jesus.
- I do not like large groups of women. (I’m sorry for this. It’s just that women, in general, are emotional and it’s just not my jam.)
- I love my friend Melody…and this is really the only reason I went if I’m being honest.
Well…obviously I was going through some things, because, at that retreat, in the middle of one of the two speakers(who are also married to pastors), I LITERALLY stood up and asked a question. I mean, she was in mid-sentence and I stood up and asked a question. You know what happens when you stop a retreat speaker in mid-sentence and ask a question?? She remembers you. And so does everyone else in the room for that matter. Grin.
Fast forward several months and those speakers, Dana and Jeanne, became two of my biggest encouragers. In fact, we all still keep in touch today. Our paths cross once a year or so and we always pick up right where we left off. I love and respect these three women, Melody, Jeanne, and Dana, more than I can express. So before I wrote this post, I reached out to them to ask them how they pray for their husbands, since their husbands and ministers too. So here it is.
Want to know how you can pray for your pastor?? Listen closely, as not one, but four pastors’ wives tell you how we pray for their spiritual, mental, and physical health.
- Pray for power and freedom as he’s preaching.
- Put your pastor’s name in Ephesians 3:16-19, “I pray that He may grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power in the inner man through His Spirit, and that the Messiah will dwell in your hearts through faith. I pray that you, being rooted and firmly established in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the length and width, height and depth of God’s love, and to know the Messiah’s love that surpasses knowledge, so you may be filled with all the fullness of God.”
- Pray for humility. 1 Peter 5:6 says it this way, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God, so that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your care on Him, because He cares about you.
- Pray for his/her family…that despite our failures and those of the church that our children will want to live for and serve Christ because we’ve lived out what we say we believe.
- Pray Matthew 5:6, that he will hunger and thirst for God’s word and be satisfied.
- Pray that he will walk worthy of his calling.
- Pray that he will be obedient to what God has called him to do, walking in the knowledge that it is God who draws men to Himself.
- Pray that God would give him wisdom as he leads his family and the church. Pray for wisdom to know how to handle church staff, pressure, temptation, and his time. James 1:5 says, “Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives to all generously and without criticizing, and it will be given to him.”
- Pray on Saturday night. Pray against the enemy, for focus, that he would think clearly and love deeply.
- Pray for integrity both personally and to the Word.
- Pray for his thoughts to be pure.
- Pray for a good night’s sleep, especially on Saturday night.
- Pray that he will have compassion and empathy with those that cross his path.
- Ask God to put people in his life to be honest with him even if it’s difficult, to hold him accountable, and to encourage him through every season.
- Pray that God will confirm the works of his hands. Psalm 90:17 says it like this, “Let the favor of the Lord our God be upon us; And confirm for us the work of our hands; Yes, confirm the work of our hands.”
- Pray that God would give him true Sabbath rest during the week.
This is not an exhaustive list. This is not a magical list. This is merely a springboard that is intended to launch you into a season of prayer for our spiritual leaders. Ephesians 6:12 tells us, “For our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the world powers of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavens.” We are in a battle. The only way it will be won is on our knees. Anybody willing to wage war with me and my three friends??
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